I recently started reading a book called "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain. I have not gotten too far into the book yet, but I was drawn to the title as I am learning to embrace my introvert nature. I talked to an extrovert friend of mine recently who was baffled by the idea that it takes quite a bit of energy for me to spend time with people, even if I like them. It's refreshing to read about the contributions of introverts and the encouragement of environments that honor both introverts and extroverts. This makes me think of a mom and baby yoga class I attended several years ago during which we routinely ended our class with resting. Our yoga teacher talked about the value of our children seeing us rest and breathe which runs in contrast to the message that seems to be more dominant which favors action and doing. Her words stuck with me, especially during times when I feel like I need to give myself permission to stop and rest. We help to prepare our children to sleep by turning the lights down and having "quiet time" but I sometimes forget that it is not just okay, but essential to do this as an adult. 

Here is a link to a TED talk by Susan Cain: 

http://www.ted.com/talks/view/lang///id/1377

 

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AuthorNicole Nakamura

There are moments in my day (thankfully not every day) when I ask myself what I was thinking when I chose to be a psychologist. Hearing about the pain some people have suffered in their lives is a heavy business. But I am reminded about the "why" when I see people move themselves through that pain and back to living their lives and experiencing their relationships in a whole new way. It is as if they have been living someone else's life at someone else's will and they decide to fight to get it back. They realize they are worth the fight. It is a beautiful thing to see. That moment when someone knows - not in their head, but in their soul and their body - knows that they are all right and they have made peace with their lives, that is an incredible moment. That is why I chose to do what I do. That is why I am able to sit with people through their pain. Because I have also seen them come through it to reconnect with themselves and their lives again.

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AuthorNicole Nakamura